narcissism and addiction

Narcissism and Substance Abuse

Narcissists maintain the grandiose view that they are in control of the addiction and can quit and they want to. They feel they are exempt from conventional laws regarding the use of illicit substances, as well as immune to the natural laws of damaging effects on the body.”

~Cynthia Lechan Goodman and Barbara Leff, The Everything Guide to Narcissistic Personality Disorder

Not surprisingly, people struggling with drug or alcohol addiction are usually very self-absorbed. They care only about their own overwhelming need to compulsively feed their addiction and often hurt their loved ones and family members. However, did you know that extreme self-absorption can become an entirely separate mental illness?

Narcissistic Personality Disorder is easily identified by the following symptoms:

  • Extreme self-obsession
  • Grandiosity
  • Compulsive admiration-seeking
  • Arrogance
  • Lack of empathy
  • Unfounded overconfidence
  • An inflated sense of entitlement
  • Willingness to insult or exploit others
  • Poor impulse control
  • Low self-esteem
  • Severe depression

This diagnosable medical disorder co-occurs simultaneously with Substance Use Disorder with greater frequency than you might imagine. Almost two-thirds of patients with NPD also struggle with maintaining sobriety.

How Narcissism Manifests during Addiction

  • Self-Obsession – "I need… What about ME?...I want”
  • Arrogance –“I’m can do anything I want.”
  • Grandiosity – “I’m too smart to get addicted.”
  • Overconfidence – “I can quit whenever I want.”
  • Constant Need to be Admired –“Show me you love me.”
  • Lack of empathy –“I don’t care what you say about my drug use.”
  • Sense of entitlement – “I DESERVE to blow off some steam.”
  • Willingness to exploit – “I really need you to lend me some money.
  • Impulsivity – “I just could not help myself.”
  • Low self-esteem – “I hate everything about myself. I’m worthless”
  • Depression – “Nothing matters at all. What’s the point?”

Clinical psychologist Dr. Craig Malkin says “There's plenty of research that shows that people who have, say, narcissistic personality disorder...that they are more likely to turn to substances. If you do not trust that you can depend on people for love...you're going to have to soothe yourself some other way. You can soothe yourself with narcissism, you can soothe yourself with a drug addiction”.

Narcissism and Addiction: Getting Help for a Dual Diagnosis

When Substance Abuse Disorder cooccurs with any mental illness, successful recovery requires specialized professional care and support. It is important that both conditions are treated as the primary problem, or else you run the risk of recovering from neither.

Unfortunately, not every rehab program or therapist is experienced or equipped to deal with such a complicated dual diagnosis.

But if you live in Southern California and are looking for a smart recovery program, your best local resource is Chapman House Treatment Centers. Since 1978, Chapman House has provided a premium, evidence-based substance abuse and mental health treatment program to help you stay clean. The Chapman House staff has the experience necessary to help you safely and successfully return to a sober, balanced, and more productive life. They want to help you bring back your sense of purpose. They offer support, coping skills, meetings on the 12 steps, and tools to aid in actually staying sober.

To start your own healing journey, contact Chapman House RIGHT NOW.


Keeping Your Job While in Alcohol or Drug Rehab

According to the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration, 75% of people with a Substances Use Disorder have a job. However, over 90% of workers with a SUD aren’t getting the specialized care they need.

One of the most-voiced reasons for putting off getting professional help is “I’ll lose my job if I go to rehab!”.

With every delay, their addiction gets worse. So do the consequences—to their professional and personal life, their health, and their future.

If that’s why you’ve avoiding seeking drug treatment, understand this – your disease will hurt your career more than checking into rehab ever will.

The Best Time to Get Help Is Always NOW

Companies have the right—and the obligation—to protect their interests, employees, and customers, so if you are high or drunk on company property or time, you can be fired.

To prevent that from happening, you must address the problem NOW, instead of when it is too late.

Tip #1 – Your Company May Be Able to Help

Most businesses of any size have an Employee Assistance Program (EAP) in place for these kinds of situations. You can get confidential – and often free – guidance and help for most personal wellness issues. Talk to your EAP contact to get more information.

Tip #2 –Know Your Legal Rights

If you have insurance through your employer, the Affordable Health Care Act mandates that substance abuse treatment is covered.

The Americans with Disabilities Act requires that employers make “reasonable accommodations” for those employees participate in a rehabilitation program and are no longer abusing substances.

Don’t wait until you’ve failed a drug test, shown up at work drunk or high, or been involved in an at-work accident or incident.  ADA protection doesn’t cover those situations

Failing a drug test can be grounds for justifiable termination even if the drug is legal. This includes alcohol, marijuana, and even prescription medications, if they are misused

For qualifying employees, the Family Medical Leave Act permits up to 12 weeks of unpaid leave for substance abuse treatment within a 12-month period. During this period, your job and your position are protected.

Tip #3– Be Honest with Your Job

Your employer needs to know how your recovery needs will impact your attendance and performance. If they are going to have to make accommodations, adjustments, or temporarily replace you, give them as much notice as possible.

Don’t be embarrassed. More than likely, your supervisor already knew that SOMETHING was wrong, even if they didn’t know what that “something” was.

By federal law, your employer must treat your participation in a rehab program as strictly confidential.

Tip #4 – Outpatient Drug Rehab Might Be Right for You

Intensive Outpatient Programs (IOPs) offer the same education, behavioral counseling, and support services at its residential programs, but allow you to continue to work and live at home.

Typically, IOP attendees go to therapy 3-5 times each week, with each session lasting 3 hours. IOPs are very accommodating, offering both morning and evening sessions.  With this option, your employer only needs to slightly adjust your work schedule.

Tip #5 – Communicate with Your Employer

If your rehab needs – inpatient or IOP – means someone else will temporarily have to assist or replace you, be sure to communicate with your job. If you choose to participate in an IOP, keep your work commitments.

Tip #6 – Return-To-Work Agreement

The U.S. Department of Labor gives employers the right to create a written document detailing the agreement between the employer and an employee who has completed substance abuse treatment. This agreement is legally-binding and may include such requirements as:

  • The returning employee must remain compliant with medical recommendations.
  • Employers have the right to drug test.
  • Release of Information forms are provided to service providers, allowing them to release attendance and progress updates to the employer.

Here’s the bottom line – healthy workers are productive workers. It is in your company’s best interests to help you to get the treatment you need. But it’s up to YOU to take advantage of all available resources.

Since 1978, Chapman House Treatment Centers has been providing drug rehab services in Orange County, and helping struggling addicts and alcoholics return to sober, happy, and productive lives.


Substance Abuse Skyrocketing among Older Americans

The latest National Survey on Drug Use and Health reveals that Americans who are past the age of 60 may be at increased risk of problematic substance use.

The Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration conducts the NSDUH, which provides up-to-date information on a number of health-related topics, such as mental health and tobacco, drug, and alcohol use in the United States.

Substance Abuse among Seniors– The Statistics

Per the NSDUH, the 60-to-64-year-old age demographic saw the largest increase in past-month drug use between 2016 and 2016—38%.  Right now in America, there are over 10 million drug abusers who are past the age of 40.

Of special relevance, by examining  older age groups and how their past-month drug significantly changed from 2016 to 2017, we learn:

60-64 years old:

  • Cannabis: +48% --2017: There were over 1.2 million people in this demographic who use marijuana, an increase of 830,000 the year before.
  • Prescription Opioid Painkillers: +17%--2017: There were 169,000 abusers of prescription opioids, up from 145,000 in 2016.
  • All other opioids (Heroin, Illicit Synthetics): 17%--2017: There were 169,000 current opioid abusers, climbing from 146,000 a year before.

65 and older:

  • Marijuana: +6%--2016-017: The number of marijuana users in this demographic rose slightly, from 1,097,000 to 1,168,000.
  • Cocaine: +118%-- At the same time, the number of coke abusers surged, going from 38,000 to 83,000.
  • Opioid Painkillers: +35%--The number of people who abused pain medications jumped from 176,000 to 235,000.

Because senior citizens are more likely to suffer from long-term chronic pain, they are also more frequently prescribed – and overprescribed -opioid pain drugs.  As a result, SAMHSA reports that between 1992 and 2010, the number of people 50 and older who were admitted to a drug rehab program shot up 136%.

1999-2014:

  • The number of overdose deaths involving opioids among the 55-to-64-year-old demographic ballooned from 226 to 7486 – a troubling increase of more than 3300%!
  • Likewise, the 65-74 age group saw an even-greater increase of 4150%.
  • Among older males, overdoses involving opioids rose sharply,  by 775%
  • Senior females saw a massive increase of 1682%

Another startling discovery from the latest NSDUH is the prevalence of problem drinking within the older population.

  • 60-64: Risky binge drinking episodes went up 14% between 2016-2017, and heavy drinking increased by 15%.
  • Around 1 out of every 5 people in that demographic regularly abuses alcohol.
  • 65+: Binge and heavy drinking increased 23%.
  • 1 out of 8 senior citizens engages in risky drinking behaviors.
  • This works out to nearly 10 million alcohol abusers age 60 and over.

The Dangers of Senior substance Abuse

This level of substance abuse creates significant hazards .

Because multiple prescription drugs are typically taken at this age, drinking or drug abuse dramatically increases the likelihood  of a dangerous  drug interaction.

Also, because alcohol, opioids, and tranquilizers are all Central Nervous System depressants, accidental overdoses and even death become a very real possibility.

Finally, drug or alcohol intoxication can cause a person to forget if they took their medication or not.  This  can be the difference between safe medicating and taking too much.

What Does All of This Mean?

The #1 takeaway from the  is that ANYONE can struggle with substance abuse, dependence, and addiction. The disease doesn’t respect boundaries of age, education, income, or accomplishment.

If you are concerned about how an older loved one’s drug abuse or drinking might be endangering their health, contact Chapman House TODAY. As one of the top drug rehab programs in Orange County, Chapman House provides the structure, treatment, and support needed for successful return to sobriety.

 

 


How to Keep Your Job While You Go to Rehab

Per the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration, 3 out of 4 substance abusers have a job, but only about 1 in 10 are in treatment.

I’m Afraid of Losing My Job”

One of the major obstacles for many actively-addicted people is the fear of losing  their job or position if they admit that thy have a problem or if they take time off to go to rehab .

  • Will I get Fired…Replaced…Demoted?
  • Will it affect my promotion?
  • What will my co-workers think?

Due to these concerns, struggling substance abusers hesitate, their addiction progresses, and the consequences get worse. Eventually, their career—and the other areas of their life—are damaged far worse than going to rehab ever could.

Protecting Your Career While You Go to Drug Rehab

If you are struggling with a substance abuse disorder such as alcoholism, illicit drug addiction, or the abuse of prescription medications, you CAN get the professional help you need without having to worry about your position, IF you:

  • Learn Your Legal Rights– The Americans with Disabilities Act grants a protected status to workers who  are diagnosed with a Substance Use Disorder. By law, you have the RIGHT to participate in a drug or alcohol rehab program WITHOUT harming your career.

Per ADA guidelines, employers must make “reasonable accommodations” for employees with SUD–i.e., time off to go to inpatient drug rehab, adjustments to their schedule so they can attend outpatient sessions, etc.

Additionally, your insurance company is required provide coverage for rehab and recovery programs.

  • Tell the Truth–Your employer has the right and the responsibility to provide an environment free of drugs and alcohol for ALL workers, in order to protect other workers and the best interests of the company.

It is YOUR responsibility to seek help proactively, before there is an incident. Don’t wait until it’s “too late” – a failed drug test or a workplace accident.

As for any supposed embarrassment you think you might feel– in all truth, your employer probably already had a suspicion that “something” was going on to affect the quality of your work, even if they weren’t exactly sure what that “something” was.

Your employer is also obligated by law under the requirements of the ADA to treat your personal medical needs – drug treatment – as confidential.

  • Use ALL of Your Available Resources–There may be several beneficial programs offered by your job that can give you all the time you need:
    • Employee Wellness/Assistance Programs
    • Sick Leave Accrual
    • Vacation and Personal Time
    • The Family and Medical Leave Act (FMLA) grants eligible workers 12 weeks of unpaid protected leave for medical or family reasons. Drug rehab qualifies.
  • Honor Your Part of the Bargain—When your employer grants you an accommodation they are doing so for two reasons – because of the law, yes, but ALSO because you are a valued employee. For your part, YOU have to:
    • Complete your recommended treatment plan – do not leave residential rehab early.
    • Continue with ongoing aftercare – outpatient drug rehab, drug tests, etc.
    • Attend 12-Step fellowship meetings such as Alcoholics Anonymous or Narcotics Anonymous.
    • Comply with any “Return-to-Work” agreement that your employer may have prepared.

What's the Bottom Line?

One more, very important point –addiction is a protected disability, but addictive behaviors are not. If you show up to work drunk or high, commit a crime, miss too many days, etc. – you will lose your job. The key to protecting your job while you deal with your addiction is to ask for help before it is too late.

If you are worried about the impact that your drinking and drug use might be having on your career, and you don’t know what to do, let Chapman House help.

As one of the most-trusted rehab programs in Southern California, Chapman House has been offering premier drug and alcohol treatment services in Orange County since 1978. To get the help and support you need, contact Chapman House TODAY

by Albert Fontenot


New Year Resolutions

Resolutions for Recovery, Part 1

“Take a leap of faith and begin this wondrous New Year by believing. Believe in yourself. And believe that there is a loving source – a Sower of Dreams – just waiting to be asked to help you make your dreams come true.”

~ Sarah Ban Breathnach

This is Part One of a two-part series

For most people, the New Year is an expectant time of rebirth – a time to make hopeful promises and reinvent ourselves in the image of who we would like to be. This can be especially true if you struggle with a Substance Use Disorder.

If you have a drug or alcohol problem your New Year’s resolutions have even more meaning than most people’s. If the average person reneges on their promises, they laugh it off and say “Maybe next year“, you might need to be successfully in recovery to make it to next year.

If you are reading this, hopefully it is because you are already in recovery or are thinking about getting help for your addiction. If that is the case, here are some suggested resolutions that you can make that – if kept – can help support your recovery efforts.

Resolve to Get Professional Help

You may have the best of intentions, but the fact of the matter is, no one gets clean by themselves. Powerlessness over your drug of choice is what defines addiction. You need help from a trained and experienced professional who specializes in addiction treatment.

If you have been contemplating going it alone, consider all that you gain with the help of a professional:

  • In-depth knowledge and expertise
  • An actual treatment plan, rather than your own guesswork and willpower
  • Structure and accountability
  • Monitoring and evaluation of your progress
  • Freedom from judgment
  • Practical strategies and solutions
  • Connections to other needed services – interventionists, detox facilities, aftercare, etc.
  • Medication for cravings, if needed
  • Referral/treatment for any co-occurring disorders

In other words, professional treatment will do for you all of those things that you cannot or will not do for yourself.

Resolve to Practice Honesty

Addiction is a disease of denial, deflection, and deception. Lying becomes a daily habit that the active addict/alcoholic uses avoid any conflicts that would interrupt their drinking and drugging. Most of all, they lie to themselves, turning a blind eye to the path of pain and destruction that they leave in their wake. Dishonesty becomes their preferred coping method.

For this reason, rigorous honesty is crucial to a successful recovery. When you resolve to be forthright and open – both with others and yourself – then you remove the harmful consequences that came with habitual dishonesty.

There are number of ways that a person in recovery benefits from the practice of honesty:

  • Honesty fosters a renewed sense of self-esteem and trust with yourself to keep your commitments, and with others, which in turn helps rebuild relationships with loved ones.
  • New, positive coping skills are cultivated when you learn to deal with – rather than avoid – any challenges that arise.
  • When you truthfully acknowledge the harm that results from your actions, you are less likely to repeat those behaviors.
  • Consequently, you will also have less shame and guilt – both precursors to relapse.
  • Engaging in one positive behavior – honesty – that supports your sobriety makes it easier for you to practice other positive behaviors.

Most of all, when you stop lying to yourself and rationalizing your behaviors, it is much harder to justify why you are acting a certain way. You will learn how to stop “giving yourself permission”  to use substances and instead learn to think and behave in a way that supports your continued recovery

If you are an Orange County resident and want to break free from the prison of addiction, contact Chapman House TODAY to get more information about how you can make this the year you got your life back.


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Dry January in Orange County

Dry January should be seen as the impetus to change people’s relationship with alcohol forever.”

~ Judi Ryh, Executive with the British Liver Trust

"Dry January" deserves a place among your New Year’s resolutions. Voluntarily giving up drinking for a month is the perfect way to examine your relationship with alcohol. And, if you find it too hard to temporarily give up booze, then perhaps you need professional help.

Dry January: An International Movement

“There were plenty of nights I'd promise myself I wouldn't imbibe but end up indulging, or have four drinks instead of the planned one…These behaviors are red flags for problem drinking, and they're alarmingly common.”

~ Joy Manning, Women’s Health

Originally, Dry January was part of a 2014 public awareness campaign promoted by Public Health England. But when the results were overwhelmingly positive, Dry January quickly became a global observance.

The benefits of Dry January include:

  • 82% of participants report a “sense of achievement”.
  • 79% save money.
  • 62% enjoy better sleep.
  • 62% have more energy.
  • 49% lose weight.
  • At a six-month follow-up, 72% had lower rates of “harmful” drinking.
  • 4% were still alcohol-free.
  • Liver fat, a precursor to liver disease and damage, decreased by 15%.

Dry January: The Bottom Line

“I don’t really see myself as a big drinker, but I was quite shocked to see just how much more I drink in the run up to Christmas. Drinks on nights out with work and friends, as well as a few when I’m at home, all start to add up.”

~ Charlotte Gowing, 38, Dry January participant

You can have a drinking problem and not even know it. What was once an occasional social indulgence  progresses and becomes a regular habit frequently punctuated with heavy or binge drinking. December means Christmas and New Year’s parties, and it is far too easy to cross the line and  over from drinking habit to drinking problem.

Dry January is your chance to test yourself, and if necessary, hit the reset button.

If you live in Southern California, Chapman House your best, most-trusted resource. As the #1 alcohol rehab program in Orange County, Chapman House helps you regain your sobriety so you can live a safe, healthy, and productive life.

For more information and to get immediate assistance, contact Chapman House TODAY.


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The Top Six Benefits of Sobriety in 2019

“I wouldn’t have been able to have access to myself or other people, or even been able to take in other people, if I hadn’t changed my life.”

~ Bradley Cooper, actor

The New Year brings a hopeful outlook. No matter what’s going on in our lives, it gives us a chance to symbolically start over again, clean and fresh. For many people, this means finally seeking help for an alcohol or drug problem.

If that includes you, here are six wonderful reasons why a sober 2019 could be your best year EVER!

Sobriety Benefit #6: You Save SO Much Money

Do you have any idea how much your drinking and drug habits REALLY costs you every year?

  • $100,000 (OxyContin)
  • $50,000-$75000 (Heroin, 2g/day)
  • $40,000-$50,000 (Opioid painkillers)
  • $30,000 (Methamphetamine)
  • $5,000-$14,000 (Alcohol)
  • $10,000 (Marijuana, heavy use)

In recovery, your money belongs to you, not your addiction.

Sobriety Benefit #5: No More Hangovers, Withdrawal, or Dope Sickness

Remember all those times when you partied too hard and woke up in terrible pain the next morning? Or what about how you have the shakes before your first daily drink? Or worst of all, the horrible feeling of being dope sick when you were out and no one was holding?

All of these were clear signs of how substance abuse negatively impacts your health.

But once you are free from the harmful influence of alcohol and drugs, your body and mind can return to normal.

Sobriety Benefit #4: You Will Live a Longer and Healthier Life

Did you know that substance abuse shortens your life by an average of seven years?  That’s not too surprising, when you consider that there are over 200 diseases and health conditions that are directly attributable to alcohol and drugs -cancer, heart disease, and brain damage, along with hundreds of other illnesses and problems.

But by practicing the abstinence and healthy lifestyle changes of recovery, much of that damage can be reversed.  For example, a study conducted by the Johns Hopkins School of Medicine determined that quitting cocaine can significantly reverse some of the drug-induced damage to the heart.

Dr. Shengan Lai said, “Studies of this kind give people hope for a healthier life after stopping drug use.”

Sobriety Benefit #3: You Become a Better Employee

Active addiction affects you professionally -you miss work more often, your production goes down, and your reputation suffers.

And if you are like most people, you put off getting help because you are afraid of losing your job.

But did you know that because Substance Use Disorder is a medically-recognized illness, in most cases, your job is protected if you go to drug rehab? It IS possible to recover AND keep your job.

Sobriety Benefit #2: You Build Better Relationships

Addiction eventually isolates you from your loved ones, until the only relationships you have left are dysfunctional or revolve around drinking and drug use.

But in recovery, but and learn to surround yourself with people who actually care about you and support your sobriety.  Best of all, when you are sober and sincere, you can work on rebuilding other relationships with estranged family members and friends.

Sobriety Benefit #1: You Get to be Present for Your Own Life

Think about it—how many birthdays, anniversaries, holidays, and other special occasions did you miss because of your addiction? Just as bad, how many did you attend and half-remember because you were too drunk or too stoned?

In recovery, you get your life back, and that means showing up for all of the once-in-a-lifetime moments that addiction steals. Even better, you get to make memories that you actually remember.

The New Year can mean a New You.

If you are ready to make a change and break free from your addiction, Chapman House can help.  Since 1978,Chapman House has provided premier alcohol and drug rehab in Orange County, helping individuals and families in crisis due to uncontrollable substance abuse.

To get help NOW, contact Chapman House TODAY.

by Albert Fontenot


What Are the Criteria for a Medical Diagnosis of Addiction?

Many struggling substance abusers deny their problem—and delay getting help—because of the stigma attached to addiction. Unfortunately, the perception that addiction is due to selfishness or weakness still exists, even though medical and addiction recovery professionals recognize substance abuse disorder as a chronic illness

According to the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5), which is published by the American Psychiatric Association, a diagnosis for an addictive disorder may be called for when the substance abuser exhibits three or more of the following symptoms:

  • Tolerance – the need for ever-greater amounts of the substance to achieve the same pleasurable effect.
  • Loss of Control – an inability to choose frequency or amount of drug or alcohol consumption
  • Failed Attempts to Quit or Cut Back—This could be previous unsuccessful stints in rehab.
  • Disproportionate Time Spent Thinking about, Acquiring, Using, or Recovering from Using the Substance—Preoccupation with drugs or alcohol interferes with everyday life.
  • Abandonment of Other Interests or Responsibilities – disinterest in previously-enjoyed hobbies, withdrawal from social activities, increasing isolation
  • Continued Usage Despite Negative Consequences – health issues (disease, overdose), relationship problems (divorce, separation), financial difficulties (job loss, unpaid bills), or legal complications (fines, arrests)
  • Withdrawal – Within a very short time after use the substance is discontinued, the individual begins to suffer from uncomfortable or even dangerous physical and psychological symptoms:
  • Anxiety
  • Irritability
  • Depression
  • Mood Swings
  • Insomnia
  • Nausea, Vomiting, or Diarrhea
  • Tremors
  • Cramps
  • Headache
  • Irregular Heartbeat
  • Seizures

Addiction is a disease that hijacks your brain, robbing you of choice. There is no need to delay treatment because of perceived embarrassment or shame. Just as is the case with any other chronic disease – diabetes, high blood pressure, asthma – it is possible to get help, learn how to manage your illness, and no one to live a happy and productive life.


Christmas in Recovery: The 12 Gifts of Sobriety

Real recovery is the best Christmas gift you can give yourself and your family.

While active addiction is all about loss – sobriety, stability, self-respect, and sanity—recovery promises wonderful gifts. If we are willing to work at our recovery, we are rewarded with real blessings .

The very first day of residential detox,  we are continuously reassured that it does not matter how much our addiction stolen from us, recovery IS possible, and life DOES get better.

This Christmas season, let us pause for reflection on and appreciation for all of the gifts that sobriety can bring into our lives.

Gift #1: Hope Replaces Despair

We believe that there IS a way out of active addiction.

Gift #2: Faith Replaces Doubt

We know that if we work our program of recovery, our lives WILL get better.

Gift #3: Courage Replaces Fear

We gain the strength to face our problems instead of running from them.

Gift #4: Clarity Replaces Confusion

Coming out of the foggy world of compulsive substance use, we get a better sense of ourselves and our lives.

Gift #5: Self-Respect Replaces Self-Contempt

We learn to love and value our own selves.

Gift #6: Self-Confidence Replaces Low Self-Esteem

We gain a greater appreciation of our strengths.

Gift #7: Empowerment Replaces Helplessness

We become capable of handling life’s challenges.

Gift #8: Respect Replaces Pity

Others start to believe in us again.

Gift #9: A Clean Conscience Replaces Guilt and Shame

Because we try to do what’s right, we aren’t burdened by regret for our actions.

Gift #10: True Relationships Replace Loneliness

We enjoy the love of people who really care about us.

Gift # 11: Purpose Replaces Chaos

Stronger and more secure in ourselves, we can live more productive lives.

Gift #12: Freedom Replaces Bondage

Best of all, when we aren’t controlled by our addictions, we can live the lives we deserve, becoming who we were always meant to be.

True freedom from active addiction means that we proudly proclaim our RIGHT to be healthy and happy. We have the RIGHT to have good things, positive relationships, contentment in the present, and hope future.

When we take time to acknowledge the gifts of sobriety and recovery, we reaffirm our own value. Even better, appreciating what we gain and re-gain helps support our continued sobriety, because we don’t want to lose it all again.

The holidays are a perfect time for new beginnings and personal renewal. So if you are struggling with any kind of substance use issues—alcoholism, illicit drug addiction, or the misuse of prescription medications-- Chapman House Treatment Centers can help you regain your sobriety and your life.

As the leading alcohol and drug rehab program in Orange County, California, Chapman House employs evidence-based treatment strategies that support your complete and lasting recovery from addictive and mental health disorders. Whether you need detox, residential rehab, an Intensive Outpatient Program, or even partial hospitalization, Chapman House is the trust resource you need.

To get help NOW, contact Chapman House TODAY.


Sober Thanksgiving: Gratitude During Recovery

True recovery means regaining joy and receiving the blessings that addiction threatened to take away forever.  When you get another chance at life after out-of-control addiction, gratitude is more than just appropriate – it is absolutely essential for successful and enduring sobriety.

No matter what point you are at in your recovery – just starting out or working on several years – there are several reasons to be thankful for the sobriety that you have right now.

You Are YOURSELF Again

Addictive substances like alcohol and drugs hijack your brain and alter your personality.  Soon, you become almost unrecognizable, even to yourself. As you heal during recovery and your brain chemistry returns to normal, you become the real YOU once again.

And freed from the constant compulsion to use and drink , you also are freed to make your own choices. YOU are in charge, not your addiction.

You See Things Clearly

Many people new to recovery recall describe their old actively-addictive life as confusing, almost as if it was being seen by through the fog.  But when your vision is no longer clouded by alcohol and drugs, you can see things as they actually are.  This helps you to consciously act in a thoughtful manner, rather than simply reacting to every imagined problem.

Real Fun Without the Guilt

To active addicts, “partying” means getting drunk or high as often as possible.  And when the good times are over, you are burdened with remorse and shame. In successful recovery, you can enjoy yourself alcohol-and-drug-free with your friends and family and worry about waking up tomorrow feeling guilty.

You are Present for Your Life

Addiction robs you of your experiences and memories.  When all of your time was spent drug seeking and using, you missed out on life’s special moments—birthdays, anniversaries, graduations, etc.   Even if you managed to show up, you were often too wasted to remember.  In recovery, you are aware and present for the important occasions in your life. Best of all, you get to keep the memories.

Relationships Can Be Repaired

Addiction isolates you from your family and friends. But as you recover physically and mentally, you can work on bridging the distance. In fact, the Steps of Recovery talk about the need to apologize and make amends. Don’t worry about rejection—if you are sober and sincere, you will be pleasantly surprised how many people are rooting for you.

A Chance to Give Back

Active addiction meant you were focused entirely on your own substance-fueled needs.  But recovery puts you in the unique position to help other people who are still as lost as you once were—by volunteering, serving at 12-Step meetings, or even just by talking it out when they are tempted.  And here’s a wonderful bonus— serving others keeps YOU sober.

You are reading this today because you are still here, and that is the greatest reason of all to give thanks this season. Tragically, too many people never made it to today. They ran out of chances. Be grateful for yours and make the most of it.

Chapman House drug rehab in Orange County is ready to assist you in regaining your sobriety, reclaiming your life, rediscovering joy and hope, and realizing your many blessings.

To take the first, most important step on your journey of recovery, contact Chapman House TODAY.